You are Enough

Today after swimming for forty minutes, I bumped into a school class mate.  I knew I recognised her and called out her name.  She was getting into her big 8 seater, turned around and recognised me straight away.  We started talking and giving a brief catch up about our lives.

It was just the way she said that she’s a single mother of four children.  To me, that is pretty impressive.  Why do people always put themselves down?  Why aren’t we ever happy, with what we have?  Appreciate.  You are enough.  Why do we compare ourselves to others?  Everyone experiences different things, and therefore behave differently.

Or, maybe like something I read on Instagram, it said “This may piss you off: You are where you deserve to be in life.”

I don’t know.  Do you agree with this?

Hurdles

I am currently going through a grievance procedure at work.  The actual grievance hearing happened back in March, where I was stressed out and frustrated by it.  As I had to keep rescheduling the date as it wasn’t appropriate date to attend.  March was a very busy month for me.  June at the moment is a very busy month for me.  Why is it that this keeps happening?  When you think everything is going well and it isn’t.  Now the resolution time has come.  I feel I am being messed about with it.  Who on earth asks for an apology over the telephone.  How ridiculous is that?!  I just want justice and self respect.  What is wrong with that?  Hopefully things will get better.  It is a part of the cycle of life where we have to go through real horrific moments in our lives, where you cringe and want to hide from the real world and you can’t.  You have to face it like a human.  Head on and bounce off into the sunset, loud and proud.  Standing on your two left feet. (Is that the right expression?)  

Good things happen to those who wait..

13/1/14

Yes, I truly believe that ‘Good things happen to those who wait.’

I had a good day at work today.  I have been working in a new convenience store that opened on Friday, January 10.  We’ve been giving free loaves of Warburtons bread 800g, to all our customers.  It really was a great day.  Will blog further about this day, on another page.

Back to the point.  Some times, years go badly for one, and it feels like the end of the world.

2011 was a great year for me.

2012 wasn’t particular and memorable one, a very dark year for.

2013 was tough.  It felt like everyday I was drowning and trying to keep my head above the water.  The thought of this, makes my heart race and starts me hyperventilating.  Somehow I have battled through this and now this year, finally feels tingly.

Watch this space.

Organ Donor vs Egg Donor

30/12/13

This topic has been on my mind for a long time.  Organ donor versus Egg Donor.  Is this the same thing?  Would you donate a part of your body to someone who is ill, to help them survive?

Yes.

Or if you were dying or unwell, and needed an organ, you would look for someone who is compatible to yourself, to have an organ replacement.  A great scientific thing.  Fantastic that it works and people are filling out the forms to be an organ donor.

I saw a leaflet about being an ‘Organ Donor’ when I was at the Ambulance and Emergency (A&E) at hospital, couple of weekends ago.  I took a form and said to myself, yes, I would like to do such a great thing for the people of my world.  Though recently, I found the form, folded in my handbag.  I opened it up and did not read it.  I admit, I looked at it once and then threw it away.  I can’t do it.  It is not that I don’t want to, it is a big scary decision.

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One of  my colleagues at work, told me he is an organ donor.  This decision he made himself and it is printed on his provisional driving license.  Cool.  A lot of my face book friends and out of work friends, do support this.  Terrific.

When I discussed this topic about donating an organ at school. we looked at the pros and cons, and everyone were like ‘OMG’, ‘Weird’ ‘Such a good thing to do’ – there was so many different views.  I think back then, I was one of those kids, who was yes, very much for organ donating.

Don’t get me wrong.  I love donating.  I am very generous when it comes to charity.  Regular basis, giving money to different charities, all year round.  Anything I see in newspapers or justgiving websites, I want to give and support them.

If my body needed an organ, I guess, I would say no.  No operation.  No, I don’t want a heart.  No, I don’t want blood.

Isn’t organ donor – similar giving blood?

If there is something wrong with my body, I will deal with it.  Can’t fix it.  Don’t worry.  Not the end of the world.

I had a conversation with a friend about women who can’t conceive, who have complications when they are trying for a baby.  My friend said to me, “Why do these women try, again and again, when their body is not giving them, what they want.  Just be happy and don’t bother trying.” (Again – is referring to such techniques like IVF, more on this coming up.)

Fair play.  That is her opinion.  A traditional view?

Yes, why bother trying?  If some part of your body does not work, then why try?

Science has advanced so much.

The first IVF baby was born 35 years ago this year, named Louise Joy Brown.  In a time where such techniques were forbidden, unheard of, distrusted, not traditional.  Bit like taboo.  Then three decades later, IVF has become a very successful story.  Well, I wouldn’t say a very VERY SUCCESSFUL story, as you never HEAR about the UNSUCCESSFUL STORIES very much.

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In Vitro Fertilisation ( also known as IVF for short) is a process in which to fertilize an egg outside the human body and is then implanted back into the uterus. This process is used to help those couple having trouble conceiving.

As times have changed, the success rates have increased. I think it depends on numerous elements.  Age, time, what your condition is etc.

So, egg donors – would you categorize in the same section as a organ donor?  I think I would.  Similar sort of thing.  Isn’t it?  If you are a donor, and you want to help a stranger, you would not mind giving some of your healthy eggs away to hospitals to help couple who are trying for a baby.  But what happens, if it is on the other side.  The side where you are the couple who need to find an egg donor.  I guess, it must be a big decision, to decide for it or against it.   Most egg donations are anonymous.  Great.

So, back to my question:

Organ donor vs Egg Donor.

Is it the same?

Would you donar organ if you needed one?

NO.

If you couldn’t have children, would you get an egg donor?

Yes.

But WHY?

If you don’t support organ donation, don’t they both fall in the same category?

It is a body part, something out of another body, then out in your body to help you.

Is it a selfish thing to do?  Is it moral? Immoral?  unethical?  Then suddenly, religion and culture jumps right into the middle of it all.

Interesting facts about relationships..

What do you do when you are bored?  I like to skim, flick through some boring magazine I find lying around, in random places, like at work in the staff canteen, on the bus or in the local library.  I happened to come across an article about Brad Pitt and Angeline Jolie – which I found very interesting.  These are two mega stars in USA, both making lots of money.  Both worth a hell of a lot of money.  From their previous experiences, of divorce – Pitt in his last marriage and Jolie – from her previous three, they both had messy divorces.  They both decided that when they finally hitch, they will split everything down 50/50, as they have children involved. in case their marriage breaks (you don’t want to think of the worse case scenario) and what ever they made before they both got married, in the single days, they can’t touch.  That is for themselves.  Isn’t that a terrific idea?  Sometimes, you can learn something new about famous people and their experiences.  

New Year’s Resolutions

It is amazing what little pleasures of life can do to oneself.  Give you a personal little lift.  I have decided now that for my new year’s resolution I will commit myself to fun, active, amazing feeling good things to do list.  If that makes any sense to you guys out there.  So, for example, I will push myself and cross boundaries where I have never been.  Push myself out of my comfort zone.  I have done something like this in my job, couple years back, all down to someone saying to me that I am not very ‘daring’ or what was it…thinking..thinking… ah that’s it.. oh darn it’s gone from my head again.. something like achieving.. in the lines of ruthless but not.. in the lines of.. that’s it!  i have remembered ‘ambitious’.  Some one said to me, I am not ambitious enough.  Depends what that word means to oneself.  Everyone sees and views life differently.  So what did I do, I improved myself and goodness, I felt really good.  It was scary and exciting at the same time.  So yes, do something a little different everyday.

What did I do today?  Well, I went window shopping and bought something which I didn’t expect to ever buy and you know what?  it felt good.  I got a really good deal and I saved a few bucks.  That’s cool.  We are in the recession, for goodness sakes!  So why the hell not?!  We have the one life!  I have the one life.  I work hard, too hard maybe (finished writing my column at 2am and it was two sides of A4) and don’t really socialize (so why not?)  I have to stop talking like I am a group of people, keep using the word ‘we’ – anyone else out there who do that, instead of using the word ‘i’?     

At least I didn’t go on a shopping spree and buy gorgeous smelling leather handbags – don’t you just love the smell of real leather?  Or buy shoes.. actually a couple of weeks ago, I did buy some pretty blue pumps (you know the flat types), comfy soft, that suit a pair of skinny jeans – don’t know why though – as it is freezing at the minute.  Not very practical.  I still love them any how.  Shopping can be very therapeutic.  Impulse buying might be really bad.  But if you can control yourself, then you should be fine.  My little weakness, is movies..  I bought a couple dvds earlier… Good bargains!  Do I really need them?  No.  Yet I love watching films.  Who doesn’t?

So, new years resolutions.. 2014…travel places where I have never been to.  Obviously, somewhere not to expensive, got to be realistic.  What makes me happy?  do things that I love and just didn’t seem to have much time this year to do.  

There is a quote that Gandhi said – I can’t remember it.. I know for a fact that it is in the film “Remember Me” stars Robert Pattison, Pierce Brosnan, and the TV series Lost girl.  Robert’s character keeps repeating the quote throughout the movie.  It is a good quote.

“What ever you do in life will be insignificant, but it is important that you do it.” – Mahatma Gandhi.

One to remember.  Think about it.  🙂

Ah, it’s now 02:32 UK time.

Better sleep now.  A good note to go to sleep on.  Good night. x

Why is that?

I just thinking last night in the early morning hours that it is easy to remember what happened years ago.

It is hard to remember what happened last night.  Or a couple of days ago.  Why is that?

What is this?  A short term memory lapse.  For example, I was watching a film “Angels and Demons” – the film production of Dan Brown’s second book in the Da Vinci Code series.  The film starred Tom Hanks and Ewan McGregor.  I could not remember which film I had seen Ewan McGregor in the beginning of this week.  What a nightmare. Thinking, thinking hard and trying to remember.  In the end, I had to search for the film in my DVD collection until I was satisfied.  It was Moulin Rouge, by the way.

Why is it, somethings don’t sit in our heads for a long period of time.  Just disappear.  It like driving or taking a trip some where and you sort of remember the route.  LIke pigeons. These birds have picture minds, did you know?  They remember buildings, so they know where they are going.  (I’m like that too.)  Pigeons were used in war time to spread information.  Clever little birds.    

 

Billy no mates equals success

To be successful, you don’t have to be a social butterfly.  Going to parties and social invites night in and night out..  There is evidence of this theory, if you don’t socialize, you can focus what is important to you.  Career, great job and family matters.

I read an article about a woman who worked her way up a newspaper company and became the editor,  All down to the aspect of having no friends.  I have no friends and I am okay with that.  Less christmas presents and birthday cards to buy.  Less expense from a logic view.  Focus what is important to me.  Don’t listen in on work gossip and work politics, you won’t get hurt.  

 

 

  

abstract of my life

A life is like a canvas.  A blank canvas is a newborn child.  One you begin to paint, your life begins to start.  Experiences form.  When you look back at your past, you can say ‘i had a good childhood.’ when you were a child you dream to be older and have luxury like a car, holidays and a career.  When you grow up, it is not that easy.  I never thought I my life would be the way is it.  Sometimes, I don’t know where to start.  It is a dark place as the moment and I pray and hope that it will become bright again.  Writing helps, and so does painting.  nothing seems to be happening.  It is good to have a diary.  Looking back this year has been a tough one.  finally blogging, i enjoy this more than social networks.  strange world we live in.  typing, writing, sketching.  life will get better, don’t know when.  i hope next year gets better.